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Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Balancing Respect for Self and Others

Today was not a good day. In fact, I have not had a good day since Friday. I've been feeling frustrated with the people who are supposed to be helping me get past my limitations, mostly because they don't listen to specific details I discuss. This week, I have heard repeated excuses about how something that went wrong was not anticipated, yet they were topics I anticipated and discussed (with notes to prove my case if I were inclined to make such a case). I'm also frustrated by how people use my limitations to cover their shortcomings, by arguing I said things I did not say, or vice versa.

I have recordings of my conversations, and I can prove that my recollections are correct. On one hand, the recordings are useful for maintaining self-confidence, but on the other hand, I value the help and encouragement from others more than I value winning arguments.

Sometimes it is difficult not to force an issue for the sake of pride. Of course that's when I'm most likely to be wrong....

There is a delicate balance between maintaining self-respect and self-confidence, and putting others down for no good reason.


Dobson, J. (Producer) (Jul 9, 2012). Family talk: The need for self respect [Web]. Retrieved from

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